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Everybody
needs love, it is essential for our mental health in the same way that
air, water and food are essential for our physical health. A major
misconception is that we need to look for love. Love is not out there, it is not
outside of us. Love is in every one of us, and all we need to do is recognize it
and let it shine.
The
first thing to do is to love yourself.
If you can't love yourself, you can't love anybody else.
Loving yourself will bring a light to your face that will tell people
around you that you can love. This will be a magnet that will draw people to
you.
Loving
yourself means that you are confident, content and happy. People will like being
around you. It will be easy for you to make fiends.
To be able to love yourself you need to recognize who you are, not who you want
to be or who others want you to be. Spend time alone, not reading, not listening
to the music and especially not watching TV. Be alone in your head too. Don’t
think, don’t plan, don’t worry, just pay attention to your self. Listen to
your heart, listen to your breath. Try to spend at least 15 minutes twice a day
in this peaceful and relaxing state. Very soon you will say: ”There I am”,
and you will joy and love.
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Accept yourself the way you are
with all good and bad sides of you. Everybody has bad sides, and it is up to us
to recognize our bad sides, and learn how to deal with them.
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Pay a lot of attention to your good sides. Every morning before you start
the day and every night before you fall asleep think of all good sides of you,
and feel grateful that you are so good.
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Pay attention to people around you, find good things in them, and give them
compliments.
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Offer your help to others.
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Smile a lot.
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Make
friends.
Friends
will turn into lovers if it's meant to be.
To
look for friends, or for someone to spend your life with, look in places you
enjoy spending time at.
Like
reading: spend time in a library or a book store.
Like
outdoors, join a camping, biking, hiking club.
If
religion is very important to you, volunteer in your church.
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